As a caregiver, I constantly see the same thing. Intolerance. Not on my part but between the family. The younger generation loses patience quicker, finds the burden to be more than they want to bare but have no choice because of responsibility towards family. The one being cared for retreats into an emotional pit of need. Knowing that they bother people but not being able to control themselves because they need to have their family members close to make them feel better. One side wishing they weren’t needed and the other side wishing they didn’t need any help. Emotions run hot. Frustration is the number one emotion. Even if they are known for their endless patience, there is something about disability that causes both sides to suffer mentally. I believe that only the caregiver can make the difference especially when dealing with dementia. As the younger generation, as a daughter, a son, a family member, we must remember that the older generations mindset and life revolves around us. They lived for us, they worked to provide for us, they suffered for us, we are primary in their lives, even if they are secondary in ours. We were made to deal with the pain of losing the older generation first so let’s make their last moments worthy of their hard work. You can not make up for anything after they are gone. Do not live with the regret because you lost your temper. Kindness goes a long way. Love them, disability and all.